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Follow Us. Terms Privacy Policy. Part of HuffPost Parenting. All rights reserved. A spoiled child is used to getting what they want when they want it with few exceptions.
Here are some of the most common causes. You feel guilty. Today's family dynamics often set the stage for spoiling, says Gail Gross, a child development specialist in Houston. In families where both parents work, or in single-parent homes, the feeling is, "I have so little time with my child, I want it to be fun.
You don't have the energy to be consistent. One day you refuse to let your child have pudding for breakfast, despite the tantrum; the next day when you've been up all night with the baby and are exhausted , you think "Oh, it won't kill him," and give in.
Such behavior teaches your child that rules aren't for real. You offer too much help. When a toddler is frustrated, many parents want to jump in and help right away, says Lerner. Rushed, stressed-out parents do the same thing. Kids get spoiled because they start relying on Mom or Dad for everything -- getting dressed, finishing a puzzle, fetching a juice box.
Your goal is to encourage your child to do things for himself, so he can say, "I can handle this" -- not do it for him, notes Lerner. You want to give him everything you didn't have. Of course, buying stuff for your kids is fun, especially when they move beyond the playing-with-the-boxes phase. But giving kids too much can backfire, leading them to always be looking for the next new thing instead of being satisfied with what they have.
You believe he's the ultimate cutup. We've all seen parents who smile as their kids talk back, push other children, or knock over breakable objects. These parents are clueless about how to stop the behavior, so they rationalize it as being cute and funny, points out Severe. It's easier to do that than to face the problem. Other people, however, are much less charmed. This is a good time to start setting gentle limits to form the basis of teaching your child positive behaviour in the future.
Although newborns sleep, on average, 16 out of every 24 hours, your baby might do this in short naps. During the first few weeks, while you and your baby are getting to know each other, you can introduce settling techniques that set the stage for helping your baby learn to sleep for longer periods.
In the early days, babies typically need to feed every hours. Some parents believe that children should get what they want most of the time. Other parents believe that indulging children too often is bad for them.
They believe that spoiled children become spoiled adults who lack independence and are ill-equipped to overcome life's pitfalls and setbacks. Let's be clear. There is a stark difference between spoiling your child and meeting his or her needs. All children need significant amounts of love and one-on-one time with parents and caring adults to feel nurtured and protected. This sense of security is especially vital during the first three years of life, when children are acquiring skills that will serve them throughout childhood and adulthood.
But is it possible to give a child too much attention, or too many material things? It's an important question, yet there is surprisingly little research on the subject.
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